Parenting is hard. A common theme I encounter is parents’ desire to alleviate suffering for their child. Also most parents find it difficult to see their child hurting emotionally. In our well intentioned efforts to help, soothe, and reduce suffering we sometimes end up accidentally minimizing our children’s feelings leaving them with experiences of being misunderstood and unsure of how to cope with strong emotions.
Something that emotion focused family therapy has offered parents and therapists alike are an opportunity to learn how to deeply validate our children in their feelings. Before we problem solve. Before we rescue. Before we help make it better. If this has made you curious then mental health foundations(www.mentalhealthfoundations.ca/free-parent-webinar) has produced an excellent, free video for parents on this topic. Additionally, you can contact several therapists at Synergy who can support this in your parenting.
AND, since it’s Christmas time, for many who celebrate, below you’ll find a recipe for soft, vanilla sugar cookies that we really like.
ALSO, Christmas for many individuals brings feelings of sadness, hurt, grief and reminders of sorrow. In fact, if you recognize that as your experience you can join in the company of others at the Kamloops United Church’s “Blue Christmas” service on dec 4th at 7pm. Everyone welcome. Check out their website for more information.
Vanilla Sugar Cookies
7 min, 400 degree oven
2 3/4 c flour
2 tsp baking powder
1tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp salt
1 1/2 c sugar
1 cup softened butter
2 tsp vanilla
Extra sugar for rolling
- Mix flour, cream of tartar, baking soda and salt in large bowl. Set aside. Beat sugar and butter in large bowl with electric mixer on medium speed until light and fluffy. Add eggs and vanilla; mix well. Gradually beat in flour mixture on low speed until well mixed.
- Refrigerate dough 2 hours or until firm.
- Preheat oven to 400°F. Shape dough into 1-inch balls. Roll in additional sugar. Place 2 inches apart on baking sheets.
- Bake 6 to 8 minutes or until lightly browned. Cool on baking sheets 1 minute. Remove to wire racks; cool completely.